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Adele Bloch (post published 2026-08-01) claims that if you've tried repeatedly to…

2026-08-01 · 17:35 UTC ·@adele_bloch ·1 min read

Brief

Adele Bloch (post published 2026-08-01) argues that persistently attempting to fix an issue signals a mistaken lens; instead of 'trying harder' she urges changing perspective and reducing resistance. She offers reframes — e.g., friendship and dating questions turned into questions about closeness and authenticity — and Ava (@noampomsky) concurs.

Why it matters

Adele Bloch (post published 2026-08-01) claims that if you've tried repeatedly to fix a problem, you probably have the wrong lens on the problem — the right move is to stop 'trying harder' and change perspective.

Key details

  • Bloch gives concrete reframes: friendship — 'How do I make more friends?' → 'How do I stop resisting closeness?'; dating — 'How to find a long-term girlfriend?' → 'How do I show up more authentically so the right partner can even find me?'
  • Ava (@noampomsky) echoes the point: unhappy situations usually result from the wrong approach rather than lack of effort, and trying harder often drives people deeper into their problems.
Source evidence

usually if you've tried & tried & tried to fix a problem, you probably have the wrong lens on the problem entirely

the best thing to do is stop "trying harder"

sounds counterintuitive but...

friendship: how do I make more friends ➡️ how do I stop resisting closeness?

dating: how to find a long-term girlfriend ➡️how do I show up more authentically so the right partner can even find me?

what would it look like if you stopped
"trying harder?"
"swimming upstream?"
"resisting the natural flow?"

& to find a new perspective on the problem entirely

Ava (@noampomsky)

“Think about the people you know who are in unhappy situations, whether professional or personal. How many do you think need to try harder, vs how many simply have the wrong approach? People’s problems are generally created by their approaches, which is why trying harder tends to just drive them in deeper.”

— https://nitter.net/noampomsky/status/2067781932256285128#m