Relationship coach @FU_joehudson argues that two common reactive patterns—chasing and avoidance—damage relationships: chasing drives partners away while avoidance breeds resentment. They claim attempts to change someone else produce personal misery, whereas focusing on one’s own growth creates space for the other person to change from within.
Author @FU_joehudson (posted 2026-08-03) asserts that chasing someone in a relationship actually pushes them away.
If you struggle with relationships, read this:
When you chase, you are pushing away.
And when you avoid, you are breeding resentment.
When you focus on changing the other, you invite yourself into misery. When you focus on yourself, we invite the other into themselves.