untraditional advice for finding the love of your life:
> be comfortable putting yourself out there
> celebrate the rejections & bad dates. every single NO creates room for the right YES
> be as you as possible upfront... the weird quirks, the silly moments, niche interests...
> it's not about finding anyone- it's about finding the person who genuinely connects with the truest version of you. you can't test that if you don't show that to them upfront
> the faster you get to the no, the faster you'll get to the right YES
> date with the energy of "do I even like this person?" rather than “how do I impress them?"
> discern about YOU want… not what anyone else wants for you
> be okay when you don't vibe with someone
> don't force what isn't there
> stop treating every date like it could be "the one" - just have FUN meeting someone new
> have a full life outside of dating - hobbies, friends, goals - it makes you more attractive AND happier
> the right person won't make you feel anxious all the time. EASE is a green flag
> remember... the love of your life is someone that will treat you right & love you back. stop chasing what isn't a fit.
finding a partner that fits YOU is one of the most important Work I believe you can do
you got this!!!
Adele Bloch (@adele_bloch)
how to date in adulthood:
(without the existential dread you've missed your chance)
tips:
> get back out into the real world - romance is a natural byproduct of being around others
> expand your surface area for luck - get on dating apps, go to events, say YES
> build a life that feels FULL outside of dating
> get clear on what you want - what do you want to FEEL around this person? define it (for yourself) so you'll know it when you see it
> focus on finding the RIGHT person, not just any person
> stop treating every moment like it could be "the one" - just have FUN meeting new people
> lean into your hobbies, friends, projects that excite you
> desperation repels. go with pure intentions - to meet, connect, share, learn
> move toward "do I even like this person?" rather than "does this person like me?"
> work past any blockers that prevent you from authentic connection (getting a coach helps)
> stop performing. meet people who like you for YOU (not someone you're trying to be)
> give dating the same intentionality & effort you give to exercise
ABUNDANCE MINDSET BABY!!!
your person is out there - they're just waiting to find you!!!
you got this!!
— https://nitter.net/adele_bloch/status/2024229681931923894#m