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Her Need to "Find" Her Purpose Dissolved In 10 Minutes (Coaching with Joe)

2026-01-22 · 00:00 UTC ·Joe Hudson | Art of Accomplishment ·7 min read

Brief

This coaching session illustrates a specific therapeutic approach where the coach identifies that the client's struggle with 'finding purpose' is actually a mental defense mechanism against experiencing their authentic self in the present moment. Hudson demonstrates how the client has a consistent pattern: she briefly accesses genuine presence ('I am'), then immediately retreats into doubt and mental questioning as a protective mechanism against the 'expansiveness' of being fully herself. The coach's technique involves repeatedly redirecting her from conceptual thinking about purpose to embodied experience of it, suggesting that purpose isn't something to be discovered but rather lived moment-to-moment. The session reveals how grief and sadness, which the client views as obstacles, are actually part of her authentic expression that she's been avoiding. Hudson's approach emphasizes that emotions like sadness aren't problems to be solved but experiences to be fully felt and integrated, and that the perpetual nature of her emotional struggles stems from her resistance to fully experiencing them rather than the emotions themselves being inherently endless.

Why it matters

Life coach Joe Hudson demonstrates a technique for dissolving the search for purpose by focusing on present-moment embodiment:

Key details

  • [method] Purpose exists in the present moment, not as something to be found in the future
  • [pattern] Client repeatedly cycles from authentic presence ('I am') into mental doubt and questioning
  • [technique] Coach redirects from mental analysis to bodily awareness and emotional acceptance
  • [insight] The search for purpose becomes a way of avoiding actually living it
Source evidence

title: Her Need to "Find" Her Purpose Dissolved In 10 Minutes (Coaching with Joe)
author: Joe Hudson | Art of Accomplishment
publication: YouTube
published: 2026-01-22T00:00:00
source_url: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-gB3hCY8ies

word_count: 1529

I think the thing that's really um most on my mind and and my heart is like um a sense of feeling like I'm not getting to the like living out my purpose in my life >> and trusting that life will actually bring that to me. Like I'm kind of in this in between thing between like >> cool. >> Okay, just proceed. >> Cool. Great. >> But action. >> Hold on. Stop all of that and [laughter] give me your question again. But do it while living your purpose. Because if you're living your purpose, it's in the moment. It's not in the future. So this is the moment. While living your purpose, ask me the question. Now you're thinking, >> "How do I change?" >> Notice notice how everything changed just in that question. What changed? What was the difference between the way you were asking it before and just the consideration of asking it from your purpose? What changed? >> I I don't know. I feel like I don't trust it that it's actually coming. That's the next thing. >> Yeah. >> But as soon as I asked it, you went you went from to >> Yeah. need to focus like need to be in the masculine basically versus the feminine. >> Wait, that's masculine >> for me. It's like Yeah. The mind like thinking about like I I'm I'm just chronically overthink things. That's masculine overthinking >> for me. Yeah. >> Okay. [laughter] Okay. >> The mind. The mind being in the mind. >> Mind is body. >> So then [ __ ] the mind live. Tell me. Ask me the question from your body but from your purpose. You think that your mind is going to find your purpose? No. Trust your body for a minute. >> Will my purpose want to receive me? That wasn't it. You're literally shaking your head. No. So, take a moment. Take take a moment and just be in your body and then say, "If I'm living in my purpose right now, what's the question?" >> And just let your body know the answer like or tell you the answer, not your mind. >> It's really hard for me to do like I I just come back to this trust to the mind. It's really hard for you to do. What happens before you question? >> I go into my mind. I go into >> Right before that. What? Right. Before you go into your mind, what happens >> before that? I'm just I am >> Yeah. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. So, that's the thing you're not trusting. Your mind is questioning that. That's what I keep seeing. It's like boom, you be you show up and then you're like question question. So I I ask the question, you show up and then question question. >> All of this to just avoid I am which is the purpose. >> So let's >> there's a lot of there's a lot of like >> question Yes. >> Yeah. >> Yeah. Of course. >> And the I am I feel like there's like grief, like a lot of grief. >> Yeah. Yeah. You've abandoned that for probably decades now. >> But it's so much. It's like >> Yeah. It's a lot. >> Yeah. But I feel like it's never ending. And then I think again like >> you just said you think it's never ending. >> Yeah. >> I don't care what you think. [laughter] >> But it also feels never ending. It's just like >> just that's that's what that's wait that's what the mind does. The mind says the sadness is never ending. The anger will destroy everything I love. The fear will make me incapable. But we have a good cry and we feel better. We get angry and we get clarity and and we and we care about what we love more deeply. We get scared and we become more capable. So yeah, that's the story. And then there's just the sadness that's hanging out. Is there even a [ __ ] problem with it? like in your body. Like let [ __ ] your mind for a second, but feel your heart. Feel your body and tell me what's wrong with this sadness. Tell me how it's not beautiful. >> It is, but it's like I feel like it's just purposeless, meaningless. >> Your mind does. Ask your heart. Ask your heart if the sadness is has no purpose. >> No, the heart just accepts obviously. That was a mental thought process of your heart. [laughter] Just actually ask your heart and let it answer. Don't don't let your head decide what your heart's going to say. This sadness that you're feeling, is it without purpose? Is it not your purpose? Like, is it purposeless? What is it really? >> No, it just is. Yeah. >> It's just there. >> Yeah. >> So, it's like like your purpose is being presented to you and you keep on avoiding it by looking for it. [sighs] >> The thing is I feel like I know my purpose and I'm trying to get to it in my head. >> Yeah. That's your way of avoiding it. And this is what you have to go through to live it. This is what you get to savor to live it. >> I don't know if I trust if that's true though. >> You don't you know that you don't trust. >> Yeah. [clears throat] >> Yeah. Yeah. Doubt is a sin of the heart. means doubt is you have to you have to leave your heart to doubt. >> You just did it again. That's it's amazing that just happened. You just did it again. This is this is your thing. You go I am doubt. >> Yeah. So much doubt. >> Doubt. I am doubt. All all of this all to avoid I am >> the doubt literally if you watch the like order of operations it's you find I am and then you immediately go to doubt. >> Why? >> Because the big expansiveness of I am scares the [ __ ] out of you and your mind in [clears throat] particular. >> Yeah. That's probably true. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. For sure. As a protective mechanism, of course. >> That's right. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Exactly. >> Because otherwise, maybe I get crazy. >> Yep. That's the fear. The fear is that I might get crazy. I might not be able to relate to others. I'll no longer be able to operate in the world. Yeah. Those are all the fears of getting direct contact with who you are. >> So basically I go into the fear and I feel that of or the expansiveness or what do I focus on? >> Well, apparently you're focused on purpose. So just do that because that that does the whole thing for you. How do you live your purpose right now in this conversation with me in this moment? Look, there it is. Boom. Easy peasy. And then if that allows sadness then sadness comes. And if that's excitement then excitement comes. >> Okay. [laughter] >> Yeah. >> No, not more grief to feel. [laughter] >> I can see it's very hard for you. I can see how bad this grief is. I can see it on your face. Oh my gosh. Poor you. You have grief [laughter] >> just so much. You know, it's never ending. It feels like and then >> it's never ending. It's never ending because you're questioning it. >> I'm questioning it and that's why it's never ending. I'm doubting it >> because you're not actually letting it. It's like if you have a kid who cries and you kind of half take care of it, then it's going to keep on crying. If you have a kid and you're like, "Oh, I'm going to connect with you. I'm here with you." Then in a short while they but you're not actually fully connecting with the grief. You're judging it. You're questioning it. You're the reason it's forever is because you're actually not being with it. >> And sometimes it's really hard to tap into it though. Like to this level like I mean for me it's like at this point I if I managed to tap into it with you for example in conversation now it's so easy for me. But >> all you have to all you have to do is be like, I'm going to live my purpose right now. [laughter] >> That's it. >> That's your mind complicating [ __ ] >> Okay. [sighs] >> What a pleasure. What a pleasure. >> Good to meet you. Enjoy van life. >> Thank you. [laughter] >> Yeah. Thanks for watching the video. And if you're interested in this level of conversation, you don't have to wait for me or wait for a coaching session. It's something that happens all the time in our connection course. So if you're interested in something like that, you can just click on the link below.