people can FEEL when you're desperate - it's an energy that pushes them away
how to date without desperation:
> stop treating every date like it could be "the one" - just have FUN meeting someone new
> have a full life outside of dating - hobbies, friends, goals - it makes you more attractive AND happier
> don't over-text or over-plan - match their energy and let things breathe
> if they're not communicating consistently (without explaining why), they're not that interested - move on! (it's all good, it happens)
> the right person won't make you feel anxious all the time. EASE is a green flag
> you're focusing all your energy on what they think of you. have you considered asking yourself what do I think of them?
> abundance mindset baby!!! there is infinite connection out there for you. no need to obsess. the right one is right around the corner
> stop auditioning for them. you don't need to perform. you want someone who likes you for YOU (not someone you're trying to be)
> when it's right, it feels EASY - not like you're constantly trying to prove yourself
desperation comes from scarcity mindset
the cure is building a life you LOVE with or without a partner
that energy will attract abundance
you got this!!!
Ellie going to vc (@basilYam)
it's good to be able to recognize when someone is rejecting you, or even asking for a little space. it's good to be responsive to that and back away without forcing them to make it explicit. this is a good social skill. this is maturity.
If you can be responsive to them that will send a signal that you are trustworthy and they will be more likely to want to signal you to come closer again.
becoming friends with people is like dancing. there are no hard rules, there are just frameworks. if you need someone to tell you how to take each step and explicitly walk you through it, you aren't very good at dancing. that's ok, that doesn't mean you're a bad person. it just means you're not good at something.
I have a lot of friends and I love them deeply. There's always someone around to help me if I need it, or spend time with me. I also don't have a lot of drama in my relationships. I have lots of drama-free friendships because I know how to keep people at the right distance without hurting their feelings or destroying the relationship or on the other hand, giving too much of myself.
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